LESSON 29: ALWAYS LISTEN TO MR. ROGERS
"Confronting our feelings and giving them appropriate expression always takes strength, not weakness. It takes strength to acknowledge our anger, and sometimes more strength yet to curb the aggressive urges anger may bring and to channel them into nonviolent outlets. It takes strength to face our sadness and to grieve and to let our grief and our anger flow in tears when they need to. It takes strength to talk about our feelings and to reach out for help and comfort when we need it."
-Fred Rogers
Shout out to DJ Scheerer. I love your stuff.
However, some of us are more like Nick from New girl, who says "if we had to talk about feelings, they would be called talkings."
And that's ok too...
right?
Side note, notice he uses the phrase "appropriate expression." Boy, have I got a good story for next time. Stay tuned.
Love you
xoxo
(I can express feelings!)
Saturday, October 26, 2013
Thursday, October 17, 2013
sleepless in austin
LESSON 28: YOU'VE GOT OPTIONS
WARNING: THE CONTENTS OF THIS BLOG MAY NOT BE SUITABLE FOR CHILDREN UNDER THE AGE OF 16
RATED M FOR MATURE
AND H FOR HILARIOUS
BUT MOSTLY W FOR "WHERE ON EARTH DID YOU STUMBLE ACROSS SOMETHING LIKE THIS??"
Guys, I want you to meet Romeo Rose. I think I love him. Also, I really want him to be as famous as possible, because his dating website is literally the best thing I've ever seen. Originally he was offering a finder's fee for anyone who could find him his perfect woman ($1,500 if she becomes his girlfriend, plus an added $1,000 bonus if they got married. Can you say score?) but apparently his phone has been "ringing off the hook" as of 10/07. Hello, duh. Who wouldn't call him?
Please please please browse his page for yourself, but I would like to highlight some of my favorite qualifications for his wifey:
"I want the girl to be attractive
I like girls that are thin, or with a toned or athletic build. A average build is fine too, just as long as you are not overweight. I will not date a over weight or fat girl
I like girls that are 130 pounds or less. Of course weight needs to be in proportion to height, as long as they aren't considered overweight, they should be fine.
Being overweight is a total deal breaker for me
I will not date a Black girl. I don't care if she looks like Halle Berry, I will not ever date a Black girl
However, I will date any other race, Hispanic, Mexican, Spanish, Russian, Italian, French, European, White, whatever, anything except Black
I do not like glasses on a girl. Although, it’s not a dealbreaker, as long as she can wear contacts at least most of the time.
I will not date any girl that has ever had a threesome, or a large number of past sexual partners. I do not want a promiscuous slut, I want a normal, decent, good hearted girlfriend.
I will not date any girl if she is still friends with any men that she has been intimate with in the past, I believe once a relationship with someone is over, it’s OVER.
I prefer a woman that has never had children.
Now I’m not saying having had a kid or two is a for sure dealbreaker for me, but it’s a case by case basis, and I prefer a woman that’s never had kids if possible. My ex-girlfriend that I was with for Eleven years never had kids, she couldn’t because of a hysterectomy at a young age.
I also have a very high sex drive."
Nice.
Please keep in mind these aren't even all the things on his list. I do give him credit for knowing exactly what he wants and putting himself out there. Kudos to you, man. Don't think I haven't thought of giving him the old ring-a-ding-ding, I do live in Texas now, after all.
This website is just such a gem. I'm in love with it.
And some of you may speculate about whether or not it's real, but I'm a glass half full kind of girl, so I choose to believe it is.
For the record, I found this website on AskMen.com. They said it was the worst thing you could possibly resort to. But what do they know, really? I wonder if they've heard of Tinder...
...yes, I like to read articles on AskMen. Whatever.
http://www.sleeplessinaustin.com/about-the-girl-i-want-to-fall-in-love-with/
I mean, you're welcome.
WARNING: THE CONTENTS OF THIS BLOG MAY NOT BE SUITABLE FOR CHILDREN UNDER THE AGE OF 16
RATED M FOR MATURE
AND H FOR HILARIOUS
BUT MOSTLY W FOR "WHERE ON EARTH DID YOU STUMBLE ACROSS SOMETHING LIKE THIS??"
Guys, I want you to meet Romeo Rose. I think I love him. Also, I really want him to be as famous as possible, because his dating website is literally the best thing I've ever seen. Originally he was offering a finder's fee for anyone who could find him his perfect woman ($1,500 if she becomes his girlfriend, plus an added $1,000 bonus if they got married. Can you say score?) but apparently his phone has been "ringing off the hook" as of 10/07. Hello, duh. Who wouldn't call him?
Please please please browse his page for yourself, but I would like to highlight some of my favorite qualifications for his wifey:
"I want the girl to be attractive
I like girls that are thin, or with a toned or athletic build. A average build is fine too, just as long as you are not overweight. I will not date a over weight or fat girl
I like girls that are 130 pounds or less. Of course weight needs to be in proportion to height, as long as they aren't considered overweight, they should be fine.
Being overweight is a total deal breaker for me
I will not date a Black girl. I don't care if she looks like Halle Berry, I will not ever date a Black girl
However, I will date any other race, Hispanic, Mexican, Spanish, Russian, Italian, French, European, White, whatever, anything except Black
I do not like glasses on a girl. Although, it’s not a dealbreaker, as long as she can wear contacts at least most of the time.
I will not date any girl that has ever had a threesome, or a large number of past sexual partners. I do not want a promiscuous slut, I want a normal, decent, good hearted girlfriend.
I will not date any girl if she is still friends with any men that she has been intimate with in the past, I believe once a relationship with someone is over, it’s OVER.
I prefer a woman that has never had children.
Now I’m not saying having had a kid or two is a for sure dealbreaker for me, but it’s a case by case basis, and I prefer a woman that’s never had kids if possible. My ex-girlfriend that I was with for Eleven years never had kids, she couldn’t because of a hysterectomy at a young age.
I also have a very high sex drive."
Nice.
Please keep in mind these aren't even all the things on his list. I do give him credit for knowing exactly what he wants and putting himself out there. Kudos to you, man. Don't think I haven't thought of giving him the old ring-a-ding-ding, I do live in Texas now, after all.
This website is just such a gem. I'm in love with it.
And some of you may speculate about whether or not it's real, but I'm a glass half full kind of girl, so I choose to believe it is.
For the record, I found this website on AskMen.com. They said it was the worst thing you could possibly resort to. But what do they know, really? I wonder if they've heard of Tinder...
...yes, I like to read articles on AskMen. Whatever.
http://www.sleeplessinaustin.com/about-the-girl-i-want-to-fall-in-love-with/
I mean, you're welcome.
Thursday, October 3, 2013
I know I don't speak so well...
As this last Sunday substituted for our Fast Sunday, I sat in Single's Ward and listened to the testimonies, when a boy with Down Syndrome stood up to share. It was hard to understand all his words, but I listened closely. Then he stopped for a minute, and stated clearly "I know I don't speak so well. I know I don't speak well. But I know we were all born into the same world..." and continued to share his knowledge and love for this gospel. Admittedly, tears filled my eyes at the beautiful purity and simplicity of his testimony.
I was brought back to my first week being a counselor at EFY. This was actually my first experience with EFY at all, because I never had the chance to participate in it as a youth. So in reality, I read the basics, but I wasn't entirely sure what this week would be like. I arrived in Missouri, and met with my group of 8 girls and company of 36. I prayed that I would know the things to say to reach these kids and teach them something.
Now, I am a pretty avid note-taker. I love writing down thoughts and quotes so I can remember them, and have the opportunity to read and reference to them later. I took so many notes at EFY, and in the midst of them, is a line inspired by one of my kids. As many members know, whether you've been to EFY or not, on Thursday we have a testimony meeting. This is the kids' chance to share what they have learned, what they want to learn, anything. During this first week, I had one boy in my company who was a foreign exchange student from Italy. He was probably one of the funniest kids I had ever talked to (which is saying a lot, because I have worked with a butt ton of kids over the years.) However, being a native Italian, English (obviously) wasn't his first language. So during that special meeting, he gave his testimony in Italian. No one else in our group spoke Italian, so none of us really knew the words he was saying, but the room was moved to tears because we could all feel the spirit so strongly. Even though we didn't understand his language, we all felt his love.
After his testimony, I wrote in my journal "when we are all sharing the gospel, we sound the same."
I just want to reiterate the power in that. How many missionaries enter the field, not fully knowing the language they needed to speak? How many times have our words failed us when sharing the gospel in our day to day lives? The gospel is the same, everywhere, in every language. This boy in my EFY group as well as this boy in my Single's Ward have taught me that sometimes we just need to listen with our hearts to truly understand the message being shared. As General Conference is this weekend, for those planning on watching, listening, reading, or those who don't know what it is-I encourage you to open your hearts to the splendor of this gospel. Learn what you can from what is said, but more importantly, be sensitive to the spirit you will feel. No words can compensate for what the Lord impresses upon your heart. These are all inspired men and women, giving inspired messages that can change lives and souls. We learn in D&C that "the spirit and the body are the soul of man". Let the messages touch your spirit, let your spirit change your body, and become a soul Celestial.
If you care to learn more about the talks given this weekend, this monumental event held twice a years, that brings members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints together, you can learn more here: https://www.lds.org/general-conference
I was brought back to my first week being a counselor at EFY. This was actually my first experience with EFY at all, because I never had the chance to participate in it as a youth. So in reality, I read the basics, but I wasn't entirely sure what this week would be like. I arrived in Missouri, and met with my group of 8 girls and company of 36. I prayed that I would know the things to say to reach these kids and teach them something.
Now, I am a pretty avid note-taker. I love writing down thoughts and quotes so I can remember them, and have the opportunity to read and reference to them later. I took so many notes at EFY, and in the midst of them, is a line inspired by one of my kids. As many members know, whether you've been to EFY or not, on Thursday we have a testimony meeting. This is the kids' chance to share what they have learned, what they want to learn, anything. During this first week, I had one boy in my company who was a foreign exchange student from Italy. He was probably one of the funniest kids I had ever talked to (which is saying a lot, because I have worked with a butt ton of kids over the years.) However, being a native Italian, English (obviously) wasn't his first language. So during that special meeting, he gave his testimony in Italian. No one else in our group spoke Italian, so none of us really knew the words he was saying, but the room was moved to tears because we could all feel the spirit so strongly. Even though we didn't understand his language, we all felt his love.
After his testimony, I wrote in my journal "when we are all sharing the gospel, we sound the same."
I just want to reiterate the power in that. How many missionaries enter the field, not fully knowing the language they needed to speak? How many times have our words failed us when sharing the gospel in our day to day lives? The gospel is the same, everywhere, in every language. This boy in my EFY group as well as this boy in my Single's Ward have taught me that sometimes we just need to listen with our hearts to truly understand the message being shared. As General Conference is this weekend, for those planning on watching, listening, reading, or those who don't know what it is-I encourage you to open your hearts to the splendor of this gospel. Learn what you can from what is said, but more importantly, be sensitive to the spirit you will feel. No words can compensate for what the Lord impresses upon your heart. These are all inspired men and women, giving inspired messages that can change lives and souls. We learn in D&C that "the spirit and the body are the soul of man". Let the messages touch your spirit, let your spirit change your body, and become a soul Celestial.
If you care to learn more about the talks given this weekend, this monumental event held twice a years, that brings members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints together, you can learn more here: https://www.lds.org/general-conference