Sunday, November 24, 2013

airbag's a little slow..

In light of recent events, and in honor of Thanksgiving, I wanted to express my gratitude. In the last 8 months, I have been in three car accidents, totaling two different cars. The latter crash happened just this last Friday, when a man ran a red light as I was driving through the intersection. By a miracle, our cars collided in a way that I ran into his side. The entire front of my car was smashed, but I was wearing my seat belt, so I was restrained and other than another concussion and a few scrapes and bruises, I was physically unscathed. The side of his car was banged up pretty good, but it was such a large vehicle that I'm almost positive that had he come through two seconds later, he would have smashed my side and sent my little car flying. Even with how awful it was, and how terrifying it is having your airbags deploy and totaling yet another car, I'm so truly thankful that it wasn't so much worse. The man driving the other car is totally fine. We both walked away by the grace of God that day. Only my Heavenly Father knows how I'm still alive, and only He knows why, but I can't express how grateful I am to still be here. Cars are just things, and things can be replaced. I have so much gratitude for a family that takes care of me, for parents that still love me when I total their car, for friends that care about me, and for the Savior who watches over me and puts me back together when I'm broken, what at times feels beyond repair. I'm thankful to have a knowledge of the Gospel, that teaches me that this life isn't supposed to be easy, that we receive trials to help us grow, but that by faith and opening our hearts to be changed and touched, we can become better, stronger, and mostly importantly, sympathetic to those around us. We go through hardships because the Lord trusts us to trust in Him. What a wonderful gift that is. What a beautiful life. I'm grateful for another day to live it. Tell someone people you love them while you still have today, before you run out of tomorrows.

Tuesday, November 12, 2013

gingers don't have soul(mate)s

""Soulmates" are fiction and an illusion; and while every young man and young woman will seek with all diligence and prayerfulness to find a mate with whom life can be most compatible and beautiful, yet it is certain that almost any good man and any good woman can have happiness and a successful marriage if both are willing to pay the price." (The Teachings of Spencer W. Kimball, p.305)

I want to start this blog by saying that I am not disagreeing with the prophets' stance on this subject. I agree with and support their words wholeheartedly. The following blog is merely an idea that I would like to present.

My whole life, I have been taught and believed that in the pre-mortal existence, we picked our families. We chose who our siblings would be, who we wanted to parent us, those we wanted to love and be sealed to for time and all eternity.

So hold on to that concept for a moment..

chose my parents.

Which means, I elected two spirits who would be married, that wanted 10 children, that would birth me. But how did I know that my parents would be the two that would find each other and be my mom and dad? Well, here's the kicker--I believe that each of us, as spiritual beings, chose someone we wanted to find in this life. Someone to be our "soul mate." That being said, we are taught time and time again that there is no such thing as the "right one" because if two righteous people want to get married, and put the Lord first, they can make it work. My theory is not that you chose one person in heaven, and that is the person you are destined to be with. I believe that we all chose someone we wanted to be with, that we could potentially find.

Think about your patriarchal blessing--the promises in that are not guaranteed. You must work and seek and strive to be worthy of receiving them. Similarly parallel, is the fact that if you mess up, but you truly repent, you don't just miss out on all those blessings, you receive different ones, or even the same ones at a different time. We all have the potential to find that person that we selected. I say potential, because nothing is set in stone, there is no law that we must find that person, and I believe many won't, due to choices made on one or both sides. If I picked my spirit hubby, but he came to this life and thought it'd be a fun idea to be an ax-murderer, or if I had it in my head to change my plumbing and become a man, neither of us would just be out of luck. That's silly. In such scenarios where it is impossible for the two people to meet and marry each other, there are at least a few other prospects that will make you perfectly happy, that you can love with your heart of hearts, someone who can become your soul mate. Not to say that if you were to find this pre-mortal love, it would all be rainbows and butterflies, because as humans, it is our innate nature to have weaknesses, and you will have to learn to accept as well be as accepted for your flaws. However, since you get along better with some people than others, the same can be said that one person can make you happier than someone else.

The hopeless romantic in me secretly wishes that those couples who tell you they "just knew" their spouse was the one they wanted to marry are those who found each other on this life, after promising in the life before. Maybe, just maybe.

On a completely different note, this is a thing: Hot Girls, Ugly Faces

also, it's my birthday in 5 days.