LESSON 14: GOOD (and bad) DATES CONTINUED...
It's that time again! Another good idea, bad idea--for dates.
GOOD IDEA: Drive in movie date
During the summer I was dating a guy, and one night we decided to see the new Spiderman movie. We went to dinner first at Carrabba's, (love that Italian food) and on our way to the movie, we bought candies (sour patch kids, some of my favorites) and a slurpee. I laughed through most of the night, and when he was walking me home, he kissed me in the rain. First kiss in the rain I ever had. Such a date can win her heart.
BAD IDEA: Being rude and then trying to kiss her
I met a guy last spring who told me he wanted to take me boating, however I got a weird vibe from this guy, so I declined. But he spent the next 3 hours trying to convince me he was a nice guy and his friends were cool, and blah blah blah. Why he was so insistent is beyond me. Don't most guys want to salvage their pride a little? So I finally agreed (under the pretenses (hoping in the very deepest part of my heart of hearts) my best friend would be able to join us) and he said he'd come get me in an hour. Not only did he show up 2 hours later, but when he did, he told me all his friends bailed, so he'd just take me out to get something to eat. I went, and he barely had time to talk to be because he was texting the whole time(ya that blog is coming), and when he did talk to me, he just told me how great he was, and belittled me in whatever way he could. Then when he dropped me off, he told me he was thirsty and asked if he could come in and get a drink. Reluctantly, I let him, and when he came in, he thought he'd try to kiss me. To which I promptly told him to get out of my house. Such a date derseves the move from What Happens in Vegas...
SIDE NOTE:
I have officially been writing in my blog for a year. Wooooo! Kudos to me for committing to something. Especially because I used to make fun of my mom and oldest sister for writing blogs--I always thought blogs were for losers. And look at me now! Either blogs got cooler or I got lamer...
In honor, I have condensed my blogs into one, mostly because I don't want to manage 2 anymore, and renamed it. But fret not, more dating advice to come.
And since it's Christmas time (ish) I present this video:
Muppet Carol of the Bells
The Swedish Chef kills me.
Wednesday, December 26, 2012
Monday, December 17, 2012
you're still my best friend!
LESSON 13: YOUR VERY (NOT) BEST FRIEND
It's time to talk about that age old question: can men and women be just friends?
Many of you watched that video, why men and women can't be friends. Likewise, Huffington Post came out with this article a while ago on the subject, and the consensus seems to be: while they can be, either one or both parties wants more. I have said time and time again, if you are spending an inordinate amount of time with a member of the opposite sex, there's an attraction. This may come across as shallow, but lesbihonest, you're not going to spend all your time with someone who repulses you, right? It's one of those harsh realities you are going to need to accept. Because that's just the way humans are wired. Now, I'm not saying you're going to want to make babies with every one of your friends, just that there is some level of attraction, and it's not even always physical.
At this point, you're probably going through some platonic relationships you have, thinking to yourself "but I have this friend, and we are just good friends, I am not romantically interested in them at all." If such is the case, the attraction is on their part. OR, you have/will think about being romantically involved at some point. In my experience, I have found that two "best friends" that talk and hang out all the time, one or both of them haven't ruled out the possibility of something more. But, often times either party is too scared to say anything because "they don't want to ruin what they have." Another harsh reality though: in 1-5 years, you're likely not going to be friends anyways. Not as close anyways--this is the rule, obviously there are exceptions. Let me tell you how many people that I was close to from high school I still have frequent contact with...I can name them all on less than one hand. So if you're spending so much time with someone, and you've thought about asking them out, do it! What harm can it do? If things don't work out, guess what, you probably wouldn't be talking to them in a few years anyways. Plus, I've gone on dates with friends, and we either became closer to becoming something because of it, or it didn't effect anything and we could still spend time together just fine regardless. Doesn't the possibility of what could be outweigh the sting of what will turn into inevitable rejection? Think about it.
500 Days of Summer. Watch that movie.
It's time to talk about that age old question: can men and women be just friends?
Many of you watched that video, why men and women can't be friends. Likewise, Huffington Post came out with this article a while ago on the subject, and the consensus seems to be: while they can be, either one or both parties wants more. I have said time and time again, if you are spending an inordinate amount of time with a member of the opposite sex, there's an attraction. This may come across as shallow, but lesbihonest, you're not going to spend all your time with someone who repulses you, right? It's one of those harsh realities you are going to need to accept. Because that's just the way humans are wired. Now, I'm not saying you're going to want to make babies with every one of your friends, just that there is some level of attraction, and it's not even always physical.
At this point, you're probably going through some platonic relationships you have, thinking to yourself "but I have this friend, and we are just good friends, I am not romantically interested in them at all." If such is the case, the attraction is on their part. OR, you have/will think about being romantically involved at some point. In my experience, I have found that two "best friends" that talk and hang out all the time, one or both of them haven't ruled out the possibility of something more. But, often times either party is too scared to say anything because "they don't want to ruin what they have." Another harsh reality though: in 1-5 years, you're likely not going to be friends anyways. Not as close anyways--this is the rule, obviously there are exceptions. Let me tell you how many people that I was close to from high school I still have frequent contact with...I can name them all on less than one hand. So if you're spending so much time with someone, and you've thought about asking them out, do it! What harm can it do? If things don't work out, guess what, you probably wouldn't be talking to them in a few years anyways. Plus, I've gone on dates with friends, and we either became closer to becoming something because of it, or it didn't effect anything and we could still spend time together just fine regardless. Doesn't the possibility of what could be outweigh the sting of what will turn into inevitable rejection? Think about it.
500 Days of Summer. Watch that movie.
Thursday, December 13, 2012
this was fun, i'll give you a call, we'll do it again sometime
LESSON 13: SECOND DATES
Ya I've got nothing, because I rarely go on any...at least in comparison to first dates. Comme ci, comme ca.
Now, please enjoy 10 hours of this running horse. It's like a train wreck, you don't want to watch, but you just can't look away...
http://youtu.be/AEOpX8tmiUI
Ya I've got nothing, because I rarely go on any...at least in comparison to first dates. Comme ci, comme ca.
Now, please enjoy 10 hours of this running horse. It's like a train wreck, you don't want to watch, but you just can't look away...
http://youtu.be/AEOpX8tmiUI